We are being told many times that children are our future and in heart and soul, that is the real truth. If children lack motivation at their early age in life, just think about how they are going to be when they grow older.The fact is, it's not going to look to good. So, therefore in what ways can we be able to use your personal improvement for tomorrow’s role models? I'm conscious that lots of people battle with this issue on a regular basis and I wanted to let you know about what has worked well in my situation. I'll show you what you need to know to Motivate Your Kids to clean up... and any other chores.
First, let’s take a deeper dive into motivation and focus on these two types, intrinsic and extrinsic motivation.
Intrinsic motivation is always that motivation which comes from within. That is, motivation made by the good thoughts associated with an action. For example, the feeling of achievement that being successful on an exam evokes is an intrinsic motivator.
Extrinsic motivation is usually that motivation which arises from an outside source and sensed on account of external rewards. As an example, the grade one gets on an exam is an extrinsic motivator.
It's important to note that while in the long run, parents aim for a child's behavior to be principally intrinsically motivated, in the beginning, while getting kids used to helping around the house, a mixture of intrinsic and extrinsic motivators will be necessary.
Another thing that is very helpful and ties into the above motivators is what I term the PEARL of motivation. All kids want, need, and deserve all of the below, and it will be especially useful to Motivate Your Kids to Clean Up and anything else you want them to do.
The overwhelming majority of kids will do almost anything for praise. Try it and see if it doesn't work wonders. In the beginning, you may need to search for something to appreciate but do it and see if they then don't go out of their way to give you something even bigger to praise. Praise them for folding a single shirt and putting it in the drawer even if you DID ask them to do it.
As with adults, many times kids just need some support when beginning to do something that is new to them. Fear of failing or even just fear of not doing something the right way stops us all sometimes. Proper encouragement can help them overcome that fear. Encourage smaller ones that they can fold and put away their clothes because they are such a big boy/girl.
Everyone, young and old likes to be appreciated. Let them know how much you appreciate them folding and putting up their clothes. I used to show my appreciation to my kids for the help they gave during the week by sometimes letting them have the weekend off from the weekly cleaning and instead go hang out with their friends.
Above all things, kids need love. Love doesn't mean expecting something of them; it means planning it and making sure they are well-equipped to handle the task through sincere praise, proper encouragement, and genuine appreciation.
With all these above, rest assured that all these will do wonders to motivate your Kids to Clean Up.